Social Skill 11: Giving Compliments

Following Instructions Accepting Criticism Accepting “No” for an Answer Staying Calm Disagreeing with Others Asking for Help Asking Permission Getting Along with Others Apologizing Having a Conversation Giving Compliments Accepting Compliments Listening to Others Being Honest Showing Sensitivity to Others Introducing Yourself Q & A for Parents

When you want to say something nice about someone, you should:

1. Look at the other person.
2. Give the compliment. Tell him or her exactly what you liked.
3. Make a follow-up statement. If the person says “Thanks,” say “You’re welcome,” in return.

Reasons for using the skill, Giving Compliments: Giving compliments shows that you notice the accomplishments of others. People like being around someone who is pleasant, friendly, and says nice things. It also shows that you have confidence in your ability to talk to others.

• Think of the exact words you want to use before you give the compliment. It will make you feel more confident and you’ll be less likely to fumble around for words.
• Mean what you say. People can tell the difference between sincerity and phoniness.
• Don’t overdo it. A couple of sentences will do. (“You did a good job at …” or “You really did well in ….”)
• Smile and be enthusiastic when you give compliments. It makes the other person feel that you really mean it.

Social Skill 12: Accepting Compliments