Bad Friendships

At one time or another, most teens find themselves in a bad friendship. Maybe the actions or words of a so-called friend make your teen uncomfortable or embarrassed. If you’re concerned your child may get involved in a bad relationship, share with him or her some of the warning signs.

Here are things your teen should watch out for:

• You can’t be yourself without getting criticism from your “friend.”
• Your “friend” doesn’t give you any space.
• Your “friend” is pushy, wanting everything his or her own way.
• Your “friend” is overly critical of you and others.
• Your “friend” is jealous of you and other friends.
• Your “friend” may lie to you, teachers or parents.
• You feel that your “friend” directs “put-downs” toward you and others.
• Your “friend” does not treat you as an equal.

The following books, from Boys Town, were written specifically for teens. They offer solid advice on everything from friendships to dating relationships.

Boundaries: A Guide for Teens… Invites young people to examine their lives and relationships, and has a journal format that encourages teens to jot down their thoughts and feelings.

A Good Friend… Offers easy-to-follow “people” skills, including how to get along with others, as well as concrete steps for overcoming shyness. Excellent for pre-teens.

What’s Right for Me… Includes stories of teens caught up in relationships that have spun out of control and practical strategies for getting help and avoiding unhealthy “friendships.”

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