With this six-step method, you can work on building a positive relationship with your teen while both of you remain calm during emotional situations.
1. Describe the Problem: Teens usually respond best to clear, honest statements. If your teen becomes brash or explosive, address it politely and respectfully. Building a bridge of mutual respect is key when attempting to calm down teens.

2. Give Clear Instructions: When asking your teen to calm down, provide straightforward instructions. The more upset they are, the less likely they will be to respond to complex or complicated directives.

3. Remain Calm Yourself: This is the most crucial step. Staying calm is the most effective way to help your teen regain their composure. Allow your child some time alone to cool off, then reconvene to discuss the episode later.

4. Discuss Alternative Actions: Once everyone has calmed down, talk about what happened and how the situation could have been handled more positively. Describe alternative actions your teen could take to avoid less arguing or yelling.

5. Provide Consequences: Appropriate consequences help teens understand the impact of their decisions. Assign chores or limit access to smartphones and video games. This encourages your teen to think before acting to avoid losing privileges.

6. Practice Through Role Play: Switch roles and let your teen experience what it’s like to be the parent. This will teach them how their actions affect others and how to better handle upsetting situations. If your teen responds appropriately next time, be sure to praise them.